An Apprecation Post

I was going to come here and gripe about my male friends again, but I got to thinking about it, and I've changed my mind. 

Instead, I want to take a moment to praise one of my best friends in the whole wild world for treating me like an actual friend, and not as an opportunity to get laid.

Not once, in the history of our friendship, has he sent me a dick pic.

I enjoy how we can make totally inappropriate jokes with each other and he doesn't interpret it as an invitation to make EVERYTHING inappropriate.

I like how we can talk about sex and sex related things without it actually getting sexual because we're real life adults, with real life issues, and sometimes we just need to talk about things. If my boobs hurt, I can say that without it turning into a conversation about my boobs. He's not squeamish and uncomfortable when I mention my period. 

I also love the way he's interested in me as a human being, and not just a walking, talking coochie. We share music. We talk politics. I think I know more about his ex girlfriends and schooling and housing and work and friends than I probably should, but I'm here for it when he needs to vent because I love him and that's what friends do and I know he'd do the same for me because he has before.

He's not here pretending to be interested in my thoughts and feelings and little problems and big problems just because he thinks feigning interest is going to get him laid. This mother fucker actually seems to enjoy talking to me and hearing what I have to say and holy fucking shit, that is refreshing. 

Things aren't perfect between us. We bicker, we fight. He's got a very reactive personality type and when he's in that zone, he can be downright insulting and nasty. I've cried over him more than once, full blown, snot faced, choking sob crying, and I've had to block him when he's at his worst because I'm that sketchy ass fight-or-flight bitch.

But I miss him when he's gone. We're both really fucked up people with a lot of fucked up history, and the fact that I have boobs isn't even on the radar. 

The connection we have is so much deeper than anything I've ever had with a guy outside of a relationship before.

I plan on keeping him forever.